How Long To Wait For An Engagement Ring?
Willyou.net has had the pleasure of working with some of the sweetest couples in America. Before heading to a computer and searching for ‘jewelry stores near me‘, one must decide to even begin considering the idea of marriage and first, a proposal. With a plethora of stories to choose from, we opened the floor to our loyal customers and asked them about their diamond engagement rings, proposals, and most importantly, how long they waited for their engagements. We gathered up all our info and this is what we came up with:
How long is too long?
If you’re in a committed relationship and you’re happily enjoying each other’s company, why ruin that? If it ain’t broke, don’t fix it, right?? Wrong. If your goal is to get married, keep your eye on the prize. Stay on track and don’t waste your precious time with just any Tom, Dick, or Harry. Make sure he’s in it for the long haul. Onward.
It’s one thing if you’re just going with the flow and dating to pass the time with a warm body next to you at night. Mind you, there are heated blankets and hot water bottles that pair nicely with a good movie and a bottle of red that can provide you with the same comfort, guaranteed or your money back, but that’s another story.
The point is, if you’re just having fun, then keep doing what you’re doing. But if your aim is to put a ring on it, then you have to ask yourself: how long is too long to be in a relationship without a proposal if you’re looking to get married?
Now, there isn’t a one size fits all answer to this. Some of our customers had been together for over a decade before a ring came into the picture whereas others had only known each other a few months. What works for one couple may not work for another. There’s no mathematical equation that will suit each uniquely specific connection and romantic situation. Time together divided by age plus desired amount of children to the power of dates accrued just doesn’t seem to work, for some reason.
What’s important is asking yourself how long you’re willing to wait until you get some sign of commitment from your significant other. The aforementioned sign isn’t a bolt of lightning or a four leaf clover. It’s not an “I love you”, a new computer, or a really, REALLY warm hug. It’s an engagement ring. Clear and simple. It’s a sparkling physical representation of someone’s intent to build a future together. It’s all well and good to wait and see what happens, but keep in mind, if you don’t bring anything up and just hope for the best, you may be left with years of energy invested and not much to show for it. Well. Besides life experience, that is.
The best thing to do is be upfront with someone right from the beginning. You don’t have to sit them down for a powerpoint presentation on where you see your life heading in 5-7 years but what you can do is be clear about what you’re looking for. Your expectations. Your wants and desires, goals and aspirations. See if your needs line up with theirs. Being forthcoming is not being needy, desperate, or high-maintenance. It’s being an adult, knowing what you want, and going for gold. (…Platinum works too…)